October 02, 2011 — TLC for Your Family – We Can Change

TLC for Your Family – We Can Change
October 02, 2011


Here's your October 2011 TLC for Your Family Ezine – Enjoy!


“A person is a person, no matter how small.” Dr. Seuss.

This quote is here photographed on the t-shirts of my eldest son (left), and my youngest (right).

And the quote resonates for many of us.

We remember having unmet needs as children. We recall times when adults used power over us, rather than sharing power with us. And we want our children’s experience to be different.

Yet, sometimes we find ourselves stuck in parenting patterns that aren’t in alignment with our values.

If this is something you have experienced, please know that you are not alone. If, when we were children, the adults in our lives didn’t know how to meet our needs, we probably won’t know right off either.

But we can change!

Brain research over the last couple of decades shows that we can alter the habitual responses we learned from our parents. And it’s much easier than many of us may have ever imagined.

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) can help. And you can read about how to use it at my Family Communication page and www.cnvc.org.

Attachment parenting can help as well. You can Google what it means for younger children, or read, “The Attachment Parenting Book,” by William Sears, MD, and Martha Sears, RN. For information on cultivating attachment with older children, I highly recommend “Hold Onto Your Kids,” by Dr. Gordon Neufeld.

But if you find that NVC and attachment parenting aren’t enough, I highly recommend the book "Mindsight," by Dr. Daniel Siegel. This book describes the brain research I referenced earlier. And it offers techniques I have found surprisingly effective and easy to implement.

But whatever solutions you explore, I again urge you to remember that you are not alone. Many of us have struggled in the effort to make our parenting dreams a reality.

And those struggles have not been our fault. We have been doing all that we could do, with what we’ve been given.

So, in honor of all of our past efforts, and with well-wishes for any future efforts we may make, I wish us all “Happy Family-ing!”

Tiffany Clark
Family-Focused Speaker, Author and Advocate
Discover What Might be Possible in Your Family Life!

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